Enemy of The Best Is Good

Don't Settle.....

Happy New Year, 24 days later and just 2 days, shy of my personal anniversary. Funny how birthdays can cause us to be reflective. For some, being reflective come into play for real change; or as in my case, it serves as check and balance. As I weighed out the pros and cons of decisions made.

Among the pros- was deciding on, not to settle. A decision that have served me very well. In the matters of love, I have interviewed women who can articulate very well, how they ended up settling in loveless and/or sexless circumstances. Story such as, "Larry came along at a low point in my life -for his kindness, I was grateful to him; I'm with him, because, I appreciate him; it's not about an affair of the heart; but, it works." Here's another one: "Girl, last man I dated, Aids wasn't even out! So, yes, I wasn't gonna let this opportunity pass me by, he'll do; it beat loneliness." Lastly, (due to space)."He don't do it for me, but, I don't do being alone well."

There are different reasons people do what they do. I took a critical look at those whom I allowed to take part in my life, no matter how far and between they were. I noticed how I viewed their good qualities; landing at the conclusion- they possibly didn't have a best to give (not to me at least); and, that's okay. No one can be all things to all people.

With that understanding, I don't have to accept what I don't and didn't care for. Not settling comes with being okay, if best never shows up. All of us can't make that type of decision. When you settle for less, you end up getting even less, than what you settled for. I leave you with two words - Don't Settle.